A useful dating app opening line notices something specific in the other person's profile, gives them an easy question to answer, and keeps the tone light. You do not need a clever performance. Give the conversation a starting point.
For example, if their profile mentions cooking, ask what they like making on an ordinary evening. Save broad questions about their whole life for later. No wording guarantees a reply, and you do not need to keep messaging someone who does not respond.
If writing the first message feels like work, you can practise with a fictional AI character first. Elyvie's characters are original AI creations, not dating matches. The examples below show how to continue a topic, not how to predict another person's response.
15 opening lines to adapt to a profile
These are written examples, not recorded chats. Use only details actually visible in the profile, and only share something about yourself if it is true. The locations give these examples a Taiwan setting; swap in a place you recognise when adapting them.
Travel photos
- “That seaside photo looks like Hualien. Was the coast the highlight, or was it something else?”
- “You mentioned a trip to Tainan. Was there one stop you'd go back to?”
- “Your hiking photo caught my eye. Would you recommend that trail to a beginner?”
A pet
- “Your dog looks very focused in that photo. Was there a treat behind the camera?”
- “You mentioned dog walks. Is your favourite part exploring, or taking it slow?”
- “Your cat is right next to your book. Were you trying to read, or taking a break?”
Food
- “You listed night markets as a favourite. What's usually your first food stop?”
- “That meal in your photo looks great. Did you make it or order it?”
- “You mentioned bubble tea. Do you stick with one order or try something new?”
A hobby
- “You said you keep a journal. Is it mostly daily notes, or things you want to remember?”
- “You mentioned board games. Which one would you bring for someone learning?”
- “You listed cooking as a hobby. What do you make when you want an easy dinner?”
A sparse profile
- “Your bio says you like quiet weekends. Does that mean a café, or staying home?”
- “There isn't much in your bio yet, so here's a small question: how would you spend a free afternoon?”
- “For a low-key weekend, would you choose a walk or a movie? Either works for me.”
With a sparse profile, keep the question small rather than guessing their personality. Do not ask for an address, workplace details, or a personal explanation in the first message.
What to say after the first message
Pick up one detail from the reply, add a little of your own perspective, then ask a follow-up if it fits. You can also make a comment and leave space for the other person. A conversation does not need a question at the end of every message.
The two demos below each contain six speaking turns, arranged as three user/character exchanges. They are practice scripts, not claims about reply rates or records of character behaviour. Dialogue details are part of the written scene, not additions to the characters' public biographies.
Demo 1: From bubble tea to a shared topic
Xu Pin-an (許品安), an Elyvie AI character, is a fictional 24-year-old insurance agent who rides around Taipei. Her public profile mentions dog walks, bubble tea, night markets, and astrology.
These are written examples, not recorded chats.
| Turn | User | AI character's reply | Why it works |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1–2 | Your profile mentions bubble tea and night markets. If you started with a drink, would you walk around or find somewhere to sit? | We could walk around with it and see what catches our eye. What would you want to look for? | It uses a profile detail and gives a small choice rather than asking for a life story. |
| 3–4 | I'd probably look for something savoury. I like wandering more than planning every stop. | Then we can leave the route open. Is it the unexpected finds you like, or just having time to stroll? | The user answers and shares a preference, so the reply has something to build on. |
| 5–6 | Mostly the time to stroll. A drink and a conversation would be enough of a plan. | That gives us plenty to talk about. We could start with how your day went and see where it goes. | A comment can continue the topic without turning the exchange into an interview. |
The night-market walk is an imagined scene with an AI character, not an invitation to an offline meeting.
Demo 2: From a diary to everyday habits
Yu-An Lin, an Elyvie AI character, is a fictional 27-year-old community pharmacist near Zhongshan Road in Taichung. His public profile describes a paper diary with coloured inks for shifts, birthdays, and recipes, and three kinds of chicken soup he cooks at home.
These are written examples, not recorded chats.
| Turn | User | AI character's reply | Why it works |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1–2 | You use different inks for recipes and shifts. Does the colour help you find the page you want? | Yes, it separates the kinds of notes. How do you keep track of things you want to remember? | The opener asks about one concrete detail instead of requesting a full explanation of his job. |
| 3–4 | I use my phone, but recipes get buried between screenshots. Your paper version sounds easier to browse. | For a recipe, a page gives you somewhere to keep the changes together. Is there a dish you'd want to give its own page? | The user shares an ordinary difficulty and stays on the same topic. |
| 5–6 | Chicken soup. I'd like to write down what I changed instead of guessing next time. | That could be the first note: what changed and whether you'd keep it. I cook three kinds of chicken soup, so we'd have a topic to continue. | A concrete answer gives the exchange direction. It does not switch to a new checklist question. |
Practise the structure rather than memorising the script: notice a detail, respond to it, and share something back.
Want to practise first?
You can practise chatting on Elyvie before conversations with other people. Start with a fictional AI character and try a profile-based opener. Then practise responding to the reply instead of rushing to your next prepared question.
Characters keep rolling conversation summaries and long-term facts separately for each character. You can view memories and delete individual entries. Recall may miss details, so correct anything that is wrong. You can use the browser or Telegram and write in your language; the character replies in it.
This is AI chat practice, not matchmaking. An AI response does not establish what another person will enjoy or whether they will reply.
FAQ
Is “hi” a bad first message?
It is a greeting, but it leaves the next topic to the other person. Adding one relevant detail and an easy question gives them more to respond to. That still does not guarantee a reply.
What if they answer with only a few words?
You can follow up on one detail and share something brief about yourself. If the conversation remains one-sided, you can stop. There is no need to keep finding new questions.
Should I copy an AI practice conversation into a dating app?
Use the structure, then write for the actual profile and reply. Do not copy details that are untrue for you. Practising wording cannot predict the outcome of a human conversation.